Getting Married Too Young

Many girls get married to young, and there really is no reason for it. I was one of those girls who got married to early. How was I to know that fifteen years and three kids later I would find myself raising the kids on my own?

I suppose, I got married for many of the same reasons other women do. I had a child on the way and thought it was the best thing to do. I was very naïve but I did not think so back then. My first mistake was sleeping with some man I barely knew, I married him six weeks after I met him because our daughter was on her way. It simply was a classic case of ‘lust at first sight’.

What I should have done is simply really look at the pros and cons of getting married. Trust me the cons out weighted the pros but I simply wanted to be taken care of. I wanted adequate medical care and a bigger paycheck so I could raise my daughter in the way I knew she should be.

I did not think of love or keeping the relationship alive. I freely admitted, I did not love my husband when I married him. I simply wanted him to step up and take care of us.

Every marriage needs love or it will fail, that is a proven fact. Just look at the divorce rate, which is climbing with each year. Instead of getting married young couples who have a child together can simply live together.

Living together does not carry the stigma that it once did. This arrangement allows the couple to grow together and create strong bonds for each other and their child. The child can carry the father’s name if desired. This baby can know the love of both parents. Both parents can support, love and nurture the child on a daily basis. Truly, it is the best of both worlds.

Getting married because you are expecting a child when you are young is plain crazy. We may think we know what we want when we get married but most of us, who do marry that young, wake up one morning when we are in our thirties and realize we want out. How do we really know what life and marriage are all about when we are so young? If you expecting a child at nineteen and planning a wedding, please consider the alternatives before you make the plunge.