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Getting Married Too Young

September 19, 2012 by 3 Comments

too young to get marriedMany girls get married to young, and there really is no reason for it. I was one of those girls who got married to early. How was I to know that fifteen years and three kids later I would find myself raising the kids on my own?

I suppose, I got married for many of the same reasons other women do. I had a child on the way and thought it was the best thing to do. I was very naïve but I did not think so back then. My first mistake was sleeping with some man I barely knew, I married him six weeks after I met him because our daughter was on her way. It simply was a classic case of ‘lust at first sight’.

What I should have done is simply really look at the pros and cons of getting married. Trust me the cons out weighted the pros but I simply wanted to be taken care of. I wanted adequate medical care and a bigger paycheck so I could raise my daughter in the way I knew she should be.

I did not think of love or keeping the relationship alive. I freely admitted, I did not love my husband when I married him. I simply wanted him to step up and take care of us.

getting married too early in lifeEvery marriage needs love or it will fail, that is a proven fact. Just look at the divorce rate, which is climbing with each year. Instead of getting married young couples who have a child together can simply live together.

Living together does not carry the stigma that it once did. This arrangement allows the couple to grow together and create strong bonds for each other and their child. The child can carry the father’s name if desired. This baby can know the love of both parents. Both parents can support, love and nurture the child on a daily basis. Truly, it is the best of both worlds.

Getting married because you are expecting a child when you are young is plain crazy. We may think we know what we want when we get married but most of us, who do marry that young, wake up one morning when we are in our thirties and realize we want out. How do we really know what life and marriage are all about when we are so young? If you expecting a child at nineteen and planning a wedding, please consider the alternatives before you make the plunge.

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How to Make Healthier Sodium Choices

September 17, 2012 by Leave a Comment

cutting down on salty foodsMany people refer to high blood pressure as the silent killer. This is because you may not even realize you have it until you have a heart attack or stroke caused by an elevated blood pressure. Play it smart and lower your risk before the choice is made for you.

One rule of thumb is to choose foods, which have less sodium per milligram than there are servings in the container. An item with 425 mgs of sodium per one serving is a bad idea, this by the way is the milligrams of salt in a slice of cheese one would put n a sandwich.

Consumers would be surprised at the level of sodium in some of the food we eat. Some items such as salad dressings may not seem like they have much sodium in them, but they are quite high per serving. Mayonnaise usually has less sodium than salad dressing

A fast food meal of an average size burger, regular fries and a drink usually has as much sodium as one is person is supposed to eat in an entire day. With the specialized burgers with extra cheese and other special sauces the sodium content in the meal skyrockets to dangerous levels.

Roxanne, a heart patient from Sayre, Pennsylvania shuns her blood pressure medicine. She reads labels constantly, chooses to control her high blood pressure by eating a better diet. If she occasionally wants a sandwich, she will choose low sodium turkey with a thin layer of mayo. By skipping the slice of cheese, she can eat another sandwich or a small handful of low salt potato chips.

As one can see, it really is about all the choices we make. If you want to eat a hotdog, (800-1200 mgs of sodium) eat it but skip the toppings or settle for a hotdog made of turkey.

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Online Dating for Women Over 50

September 15, 2012 by Leave a Comment

internet dating for over 50Older women, who re-enter the dating scene, do not have to worry about the same things they did when they were younger. At this point in their lives, they know what they want out of life. It is their time to do whatever they can to make their lives more fulfilling. They need to get out there and live the life they are entitled too.

More importantly, they know what they want out of a romantic relationship. It is not necessarily about the lust that the earlier relationships were about but about the kindred spirits who share life as it comes. They simply want a man who cares for them as a person, appreciates them, and will take them out to dinner, a movie, or dancing occasionally.

There are eligible widowers and divorced men out there who are looking for the same things the woman over fifty is looking for. The men who have been bachelors all their lives are out there but they are so hard to find.

So where does a woman over fifty find the eligible men who want the same things out of life that she wants? She can find single men in churches, bars, grocery stores and many other places. Some communities have activities where single people can meet other people like themselves.

One way to find eligible men from the comfort of their own homes is to try online dating. This is not as bad as it sounds, and it is perfect for women over the age of fifty.

datingThere are several online dating websites, which cater to women over fifty. They can search for men of a certain type such as hair color, smoker, and other physical attributes. Then if they can see someone who looks interesting to them, they can begin an online conversation with the men. These online conversations, in either real time text or email allow the women to get to know the men better.

When the woman reaches the point of being comfortable with the man, and she feels as if she has a mental connection she can take it to the next level, which is talking on the phone. She can even agree to meet in person to see if there is a connection there.

Online dating allows women over fifty to move into a relationship at their own pace. Women are in control of the relationship at each level. If a man seems not to be their cup of tea, she can block him from contacting with her online or simply quit communicating with him.

For the first time in their lives, baby boomer women can direct their own futures, when it comes to romantic relationships. They do not have to settle for the man who fits into their lives. These women can find a man who appreciates them. Online dating is perfect for women over fifty.

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Covert Ways To Tell If Your Man’s Cheating

September 13, 2012 by 102 Comments

unfaithful menIs your man cheating on you? Some are quite sneaky about it. They hide it well and some are quite ignorant about it. The ignorant cheaters leave signs all over.

The Cell Phone

Does he lock his cell phone? If he is locking the phone, without a doubt he has something to hide. The ignorant ones will lock it. Even leaving the cell phone unlocked does not mean he is not cheating. The smarter ones will learn how to erase text messages and calls if they want to leave the phone unlocked to play innocent.

The Bank Account

Does he grab the bank statement when it comes? Does he insist on handling all the bills himself? Both are actions, which require some serious thoughts on your part. If you are in a committed relationship, you should have an idea where the money is going. This is especially true if you are helping to make money, which goes towards the household. If you think, he is hiding something he most likely is. Do you really want to work overtime so he can purchase some other chick some sexy lingerie?

His Mood

Is he suddenly happier? Is he eager to get out the door to go do something by himself? If your intuition tells you that something is up, listen to it. If you have lived with him for a while then you know how his mood changes after he is laid, and he is in that mood although the two of you have not slept together in a while, he is cheating.

His smell

Is he buying new clothes or trying new cologne? Those are sure signs but also be on the lookout for other things. Does he suddenly smell like coconut shampoo? If you do not have that type in the house you share with him, he is showering elsewhere. Honey he is cheating.

Even if he does not smell freshly showered, there may be the smell of another female on him.  It might even be some other telltale sign such as a candle within her home or worse yet the smell of lube for sex toys.

Some men cheat. That is an unpleasant fact. Listen to your intuition and examine him a bit closer if you feel he is cheating. Chances are your institution is correct. Most likely you have done nothing wrong to cause him to cheat, some cheater just enjoy the thrill of the chase.
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Football Season Relationship Survival Tips

September 11, 2012 by 3 Comments

your spouse and footballCouples who share common hobbies have stronger relationships. Yet when football season comes along some relationships get strained, the trick to keeping your love life in tact is getting involved.

Even if you are not a fan, there are many ways of getting involved. This will keep your partner happy and he or she will see that you are trying. You might even get an ‘A’ for effort.

Throw a Party

Even if you are not a fan, offer to throw a party during game time. Football parties can be for any game during the season, yet many people hold parties only for the Super Bowl. Fans can watch the game while the others can gather in the kitchen or on the porch for a chat.

Cook up a feast or make it a dish to pass for the invited guests. Serve snacks and drinks to make the game more enjoyable. Be sure to make your partner’s favorite snack to enjoy. Your partner will love the fact that you are involved.

Time well spent

Sit beside your partner and watch the game. If they are totally a fan, they will be watching it closely and will not want to explain plays. However If you sit long enough, you will begin to learn what is good and what is not. Cheer at the right times and you will score points.

If you are not into football but want something to keep your mind occupied, you can sit there and write a grocery list or make metal notes of other things. If you knit or do some simple craft, bring it in. You can do a crossword puzzle or word search, as long as you are showing some interest.

Do not try to have a non-football type of conversation during the game, as the fan will not be into it. Keep all short conversations on topics related to the game when they are playing and you cannot go wrong. During the commercials is the time to bring up some lighthearted topics.

Conflicting Teams

If you are a fan of an opposing team, be respectful of his team. I once dated a man who was a huge fan of the Pittsburg Steelers, and when they played the Dallas Cowboys in a playoff, I cheered for my team. This hurt his feelings and he got upset with me.

I thought the argument was childish but he was quite serious. There was no sense in ruining an otherwise good relationship over a football game so I toned down my support. That relationship ended but I still learned some valuable lessons about being a football fan during that time.

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